One of the things I love about Mexico is the fiestas. Boy, do they like to party. Now, before you conjure up images of workplace Christmas parties, fiestas are a family affair.
Let’s take for example a birthday party. All of your family is invited, adults and children alike. If you are specifically invited, it is considered an insult if you no-show. Be prepared to either have a REALLY good excuse why you can’t go, or you will hurt their feelings. So for our friends’ daughter’s 2nd birthday, our whole family and all their friends’ families are invited. No more small gatherings of a handful of children. How extravagant the party is depends on your economic status. This friend of ours is fairly affluent, so the party was pretty extravagant.
When you arrive, you are warmly greeted by everyone there, but especially the host. They help you find a table (yes, it is almost like going to a restaurant), get refreshments for you and serve food to you (either themselves or one of their servers). Usually they visit for a few minutes and move on to visit with others. How often they are back to visit depends on how busy they are and how many friends they need to visit. Typically, we have similar friend circles so we usually sit at a table with other friends we already know. For the adults, that’s pretty much the extent of the day/evening. We chat and visit for hours. That may sound boring, but Mexicans generally have mastered the art of conversation. Even Bill enjoys sitting and visiting with friends at these fiestas.
When you arrive, you are warmly greeted by everyone there, but especially the host. They help you find a table (yes, it is almost like going to a restaurant), get refreshments for you and serve food to you (either themselves or one of their servers). Usually they visit for a few minutes and move on to visit with others. How often they are back to visit depends on how busy they are and how many friends they need to visit. Typically, we have similar friend circles so we usually sit at a table with other friends we already know. For the adults, that’s pretty much the extent of the day/evening. We chat and visit for hours. That may sound boring, but Mexicans generally have mastered the art of conversation. Even Bill enjoys sitting and visiting with friends at these fiestas.
At this party, they hired a party group that provided entertainment for the children with games, music and piñatas (yes, plural - they do 2).
We have been invited to about 1-2 parties per month – either for birthdays, town fiestas, or one quince años (I’ll explain about that in another blog). It is a lot of fun and our boys are starting to expect them.
Oh yes! Remember Dinorah from our ward?? Her family birthday celebrations were just like you described. AND.....if she went to church instead of to the family parties....feelings were REALLY hurt. Now I know why. I did not know it was a culture thing.
ReplyDeleteThanks for sharing! I find the differences all so fascinating!